oh, the holiday's
jennster:
holiday's. christmas, thanksgiving, easter, and whatever the hell else "holiday" you're required to do familial things for. when boyfriend and i were dating i remember him telling me that we would NEVER switch off families during the holidays (you know, like my family one year, his the next). he gave me some bullshit line about how he had to be with his family every single thanksgiving and christmas. and no matter how many times i pleaded with him, trying to explain that that wasn't fair at all, he wasn't budging. i remember sluffing it off and thinking "we'll deal with this later.." it's funny because when i bring that up now, he claims not to remember ever saying that. how convenient.
well it's come down to the real deal and we ARE switching off. his family last year at xmas, and mine this year. i truly think that's only fair. even if my mom does get the raw end of the deal because we only seem to negotiate christmas, and nothing else. when you think about it, my mom should have christmas every year since boyfriend's family has us every thanksgiving, easter and every other holiday. but we switch. we trade off. that's how it should be right? i mean, isn't that what normal people do? (not implying that we're normal or anything)
point:
your fucking high if you think that your mom should get christmas every year....you never even did anything for t_day before me. Your just lucky that i have decided to give you a gift and allow us to go to your mothers......after all its tradition that the woman leaves her family to join the mans. i think your blessed to have such a wonderful man that he decide to change the way it was supposed to be to make you happy.
if only you were so understanding.
jennster:
good god, i can't let this crap go. IT IS NOT TRADITION THAT THE WOMAN LEAVES THE MANS FAMILY! he leaves. dammit.
and before your ass, i freaking volunteered during thanksgiving! so hmph!
ps- i hate you.
holiday's. christmas, thanksgiving, easter, and whatever the hell else "holiday" you're required to do familial things for. when boyfriend and i were dating i remember him telling me that we would NEVER switch off families during the holidays (you know, like my family one year, his the next). he gave me some bullshit line about how he had to be with his family every single thanksgiving and christmas. and no matter how many times i pleaded with him, trying to explain that that wasn't fair at all, he wasn't budging. i remember sluffing it off and thinking "we'll deal with this later.." it's funny because when i bring that up now, he claims not to remember ever saying that. how convenient.
well it's come down to the real deal and we ARE switching off. his family last year at xmas, and mine this year. i truly think that's only fair. even if my mom does get the raw end of the deal because we only seem to negotiate christmas, and nothing else. when you think about it, my mom should have christmas every year since boyfriend's family has us every thanksgiving, easter and every other holiday. but we switch. we trade off. that's how it should be right? i mean, isn't that what normal people do? (not implying that we're normal or anything)
point:
your fucking high if you think that your mom should get christmas every year....you never even did anything for t_day before me. Your just lucky that i have decided to give you a gift and allow us to go to your mothers......after all its tradition that the woman leaves her family to join the mans. i think your blessed to have such a wonderful man that he decide to change the way it was supposed to be to make you happy.
if only you were so understanding.
jennster:
good god, i can't let this crap go. IT IS NOT TRADITION THAT THE WOMAN LEAVES THE MANS FAMILY! he leaves. dammit.
and before your ass, i freaking volunteered during thanksgiving! so hmph!
ps- i hate you.
Labels: Ster and point
posted by j.sterling at 2:38 AM
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its tradition that the woman leaves her family to join the mans????? hahahahahaha Nice one. Your funny!
We switch on and off. Kinda. We don't switch every year though. There is no schedule. Chistmas Eve is the important one in my family. It's at my moms house and all my family goes and drinks and eats until early hours of the morn. Basically it's the more fun house....so we go there. The other holidays are up for grabs as far as I'm concerned. As long as I get my Chistmas Eve! My parents often invite Mike's Mom (his dad lives farther away) to Christmas Eve, so that we can all spend it together too.
I guess you can't do Christmas eve one place and Christmas day the other huh?
Only other way to solve it is to have it at your house, so you can invite everyone!
Yeah, I don't think the woman leaving her family thing would go over well with me. Especially with my inlaws...
You guys bring up a good point. Patrick and I spent three in a row at his parents because we lived closer to them, and I was always working right up to christmas. However, they are athiest, so they don't really care about it.
Until I had their first grandchild. Of course when that happened we were (are) living in the same city as my family. Therefore,we stay here. We talked about switching. But who the hell wants to travel with two kids at Christmas time.
Since we have our own home, and our own family, they can come to us.
So, we see the inlaws, but we are at our home, and still spend it with my family.
I win!
Dude, you completly stole my idea....we have next week and you jiped us. I'm telling Nick on you.
We try to switch off or whatever but in reality our parents are best friends (I know we suck) and so they generally do it together. But if I want to see my dad and step-mom on a holiday, and not even Christmas, he throws a tantrum. Like a big tantrum and eventually he wins cause I get sick of it. But my dad always gets the shit end of the deal...and he deserves it, but he also deserves to on ocassion see his kids and grandkids for holidays....like easter or um...presidents day maybe. :)
I agree with Jenn, have it at your house one year....or see if Ster's mom can go to points familys house....really they may get along. Also, it's easier to argue about it right now, but just wait and see how sucky it will be if you have a kid. So you may want to start negociating now.
my mom totally loves dot's parents! it's cool.. but i have my sister and her kids, and my brother.. and i like to NOT have to be with boyfriends family every single time. i miss my casual, super fun, family time at my mom's house. i go to my mom's about twice a year, so it's not like i see her often
See I was missing shit. Make him take turns....or just tie his ass to a chair and drag him with you.
Jennster, I see what you're saying--that point is on crack. As much as I love my in-laws, I would be pissed off if Tim was like that. AND WTF? THE WOMAN DOES NOT LEAVE HER FAMILY FOR THE MAN. More than anything, it's the woman who takes over all holidays and she decides things. Holiday planning is ALL woman! so yeah..if you want to spend every holiday with your parents, ster..then THAT would be ok! LOL but this? no way!
melissa.. LOL.. i think taking turns is perfectly fine and i think that's what couples SHOULD do you know? and there's no in hell i'm hosting it. i have no desire to do that! at least not now! lol
and toots- you crack me up! but i would never do that. i would never say we have to see my family every holiday, every year. plus, i don't want too. LOL.. i like balance! and switching off IS balance.
and seriously, the woman does not leave her family for the man's.. it's the opposite, isn't it?!
I was being facetious..mostly..LOL I think it's fair to switch off.. absolutely. See, we have the luxury of spending Christmas with one family and Boxing Day with the other. We live close enough to do that. But we would do the switching off thing if we lived any real distance apart.
And yes! It IS the opposite.. especially in regards to holidays! That's woman's domain, dude.
Yes, usually more holidays are spent with the woman's family (as long as it's enjoyable) and mothers of boys are just ass out (I'm not looking forward to that when Nicholas is married). But really, you should switch off and that's what we do....except, whenever it's my mom's turn, my in-laws come to our house, so it's really THEIR turn every year. I don't really mind it but it would be nice to be ALONE with our kids on Christmas morning, and I think this year MIGHT be the first time! Yay!
And Point, Jenn did not start doing Thanksgiving when she met YOU. I've been to Thanksgiving with her family, thank you very much!
It's always such a juggling act, but deep down I see in both of your comments that you are making it work.
Lisa
Which is why my children must all marry orphans because I want them all under my roof and around my table!
My family wins because Hugh's is boring...;-)
kristin.. LMFAO!!!!!!!!!! fucking orphans. maybe your house will be more fun and they'll want to be at yours all the time?! lol
Jennster, HOW did you manage to time travel Point in from two centuries ago? Did he insist on a dowry too? Like maybe your mom offered him two cows and a pig so his family would take you off your mom's hands for her.
We do Christmas eve at my parents and Christmas day at his. We used to go both places both days, which was completely insane. It helps that both sides live relatively nearby.
My parents are divorced, so when I was growing up, I used to have to switch on and off. Here's the way it worked for me. There are three major holidays: Easter, Thanksgiving & Christmas. One year my Dad would get Easter and Christmas, and my mom would get Thanksgiving. The next year it switched. This was the most fair thing we could come up with.
We have a crazy ass holiday schedule, but it seems to work well for us. Thankgiving day we always spend with his family, and we celebrate either the weekend before or after with my family.
For Christmas, we celebrate with his dad's side of the family the weekend before, spend Christmas Eve and Christmas morning with my family, then spend Christmas day with his mom's side of the family. Luckily, our families are only a couple of hours away from each other, so it works okay. It is a lot of driving, but it is worth it to see everybody. I agree with Jenn, it is only fair to switch or work something else out, since your families are not close enough together.
Maybe I am a hypocrit, though, since I refuse to not spend at least part of Christmas with my family. It is the anniversary of my sister's death, though, so my family needs to be together. Jason is fine with the situation, though, so it works.
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