solo vacations?
jennster says:
boyfriend is packing right now as i type this for a hunting weekend. a weekend with his buddies. he does this a few times a year. and i'm all for it. i think it's great that he has something he does without me. and i enjoy my alone time. when boyfriend is on vacation, i feel like i get a little vacation too. does that sound bad? i love and adore him. but i also love and adore me. i LOVE my alone time. my alone with myself time. my alone with blakey face time. all of it. i enjoy being in my own company and i rarely get tired of myself. i've never understood the people who simply couldn't be alone. i can stay up late at night and watch whatever i want without boyfriend having to go to bed early, or whining about how badly grey's anatomy sucks. i can rent movies that i know will be bad, but watch them anyway. i can hog up the whole entire bed (even his pillow). i can eat what i want because i'm such a bad cook. i can journal and write. i can play with you guys all night if i want too! party!
before boyfriend left however, he was saying how he felt kind of bad that i don't get to take vacations. hmmm. i'd never even thought about it before, but it is kind of true. he gets to go on his little hunting trips and i don't really go anywhere. i wonder what i can start doing yearly so that i have a getaway that's just girls? i used to go to new york to see my east coast girls, but that has kind of changed the past couple of years. i sure could use the time away with friends. and i'm sure he could use it too. right babe? am i the only one who sees the positive in getaways with your friends?
point says:
Thank god it's finally here and i can get away from that psycho..........
i think solo vactions are extremely healthy i think i even need more of them..............
but in all seriousness i do think they help alot, ease tensions between us.....normally i end up realizing (why the fuck did i say normally, ok pretty much always) how much i miss her and blakey and how lucky i am.
Now im not saying that times are tense, but it's nice to have a reminder of why you want that sprawling freak next to you, taking up all the bed.
OH, and thank god she gets those AWFUL movies out of the way when im gone too....(i'm a bastard, a self admitted bastard, when it comes to movies, music and shows.......i would hate to live with me for soley that reason.....that being said i don't think i'll ever change.) I just want to ram ice picks in my ears and eyes.
Now i wonder if my little vacation does the same for her (staying home) as it would if she went somewhere?? i dunno, prolly not, because when she goes somewhere she gets out of the house and stops with her O.C. cleaning habits..............and enjoys herself. and vise versa. i get to be a filthy pig again and walk around in my tighty whiteys, drink beer at 10am and watch war movies and nascar......
i hope to hell she leaves to go somewhere soon.
boyfriend is packing right now as i type this for a hunting weekend. a weekend with his buddies. he does this a few times a year. and i'm all for it. i think it's great that he has something he does without me. and i enjoy my alone time. when boyfriend is on vacation, i feel like i get a little vacation too. does that sound bad? i love and adore him. but i also love and adore me. i LOVE my alone time. my alone with myself time. my alone with blakey face time. all of it. i enjoy being in my own company and i rarely get tired of myself. i've never understood the people who simply couldn't be alone. i can stay up late at night and watch whatever i want without boyfriend having to go to bed early, or whining about how badly grey's anatomy sucks. i can rent movies that i know will be bad, but watch them anyway. i can hog up the whole entire bed (even his pillow). i can eat what i want because i'm such a bad cook. i can journal and write. i can play with you guys all night if i want too! party!
before boyfriend left however, he was saying how he felt kind of bad that i don't get to take vacations. hmmm. i'd never even thought about it before, but it is kind of true. he gets to go on his little hunting trips and i don't really go anywhere. i wonder what i can start doing yearly so that i have a getaway that's just girls? i used to go to new york to see my east coast girls, but that has kind of changed the past couple of years. i sure could use the time away with friends. and i'm sure he could use it too. right babe? am i the only one who sees the positive in getaways with your friends?
point says:
Thank god it's finally here and i can get away from that psycho..........
i think solo vactions are extremely healthy i think i even need more of them..............
but in all seriousness i do think they help alot, ease tensions between us.....normally i end up realizing (why the fuck did i say normally, ok pretty much always) how much i miss her and blakey and how lucky i am.
Now im not saying that times are tense, but it's nice to have a reminder of why you want that sprawling freak next to you, taking up all the bed.
OH, and thank god she gets those AWFUL movies out of the way when im gone too....(i'm a bastard, a self admitted bastard, when it comes to movies, music and shows.......i would hate to live with me for soley that reason.....that being said i don't think i'll ever change.) I just want to ram ice picks in my ears and eyes.
Now i wonder if my little vacation does the same for her (staying home) as it would if she went somewhere?? i dunno, prolly not, because when she goes somewhere she gets out of the house and stops with her O.C. cleaning habits..............and enjoys herself. and vise versa. i get to be a filthy pig again and walk around in my tighty whiteys, drink beer at 10am and watch war movies and nascar......
i hope to hell she leaves to go somewhere soon.
gratuitous engagement pic below:
Labels: Ster and point
posted by j.sterling at 2:13 AM
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Great post! I have encouraged hubby to go on a snowboarding weekend or something, but he is so busy with school and work, that its hard. Maybe soon right?
I too like to hog the bed, so it is a nice break when I can sleep IN THE MIDDLE! LOL!
Point~ have fun on your little vacation!
Ster~ go buy another cake, cause well, its your vacation too right?!
but i just bought that cake!!!!! LOL.. if i buy another, i'll never fit into my jeans again!
Holy shit I almost forgot today was Friday! Yay...Dad said Mom said post!
First let me say I love love LOVE the picture. That one is so YOU!
Mike and I really should do stuff alone once in a while....but it seems that if we are without baby it's soo tempting to be able to be alone with each other that we take it!
But I'm gonna try and get a girls night out at least.
Although I have to say I really enjoy being able to hog the WHOLE bed!
that's true though- and see, we don't have a baby in the house, and we get every other weekend away from blake, so we aren't hurting for couple alone time. know what i mean??!?! ALL OF THIS will change when/if we have a kid of our own. it terrifies me. lol
but yeah- couple alone time, we aren't lacking.. but SELF ALONE time, we have to make time for.
i love it! and we got our trip away to see YOU guys. hopefully my next all girl trip away involves jenns bachelorette party :)jenn you should come here. you got me and gina right here for an all girls weekend!!!!!!
Ohhhh pretty picture. I think you are both right. I think being apart keeps things alive. It makes you remember how much you miss someone and reminds you to appriciate them more.
Also, Ster, while I think it's great that you have a blast with yourself and Blakey, I do think you should do a girl weekend sometime. And maybe do it and leave Point with Blakey, it would be good for all of you. I love to be alone, I'll go to restaurants and movies alone, I don't care. It's fun in fact, but I do enjoy a good girl weekend.
Great post you two.
Ohh and Jenn, you and Mike are really still newlyweds...eventually when Allie gets a bit older and you two have been togeather years...you'll want a little time apart. Only a little though. ;)
so hilarious, point!
I think separate vacays are great. 'ster, the blogher thing is of course a fun girls trip, and who knows you could go to sundance film fest with just the gals... anything at all. sounds like you could have fun doing anything. you know, you just have a fun attitude in life. etc.
Lisa
when i went to blogher, the boys were alone- and that was awesome. and then i came home in the biggest funk of seperation anxiety ever.. i'm sure bf won't ever want me to go to blogher again! lol
i am a fan of weekends away.. time away. i am all for it!
Absolutely take a solo trip, especially since you have no babies complicating things. But can you get him to clean up the beer cans before you get back?
LOL. I'm off for a vacation by myself this weekend actually. I think a little time apart IS good for the relationship. Distance makes the heart grow fonder and all that stuff...
Jennster- come to st. louis for your girl's getaway!
Awesome, awesome picture! You two look so cute and fun!
MOFTR- you're alone too? COME OVER!!!!!!!! :o)
steph- OKAY! do i get to sleep over yours and jack black's house?! lol
minne mama- when i went to blogher, i came back to a super nice and clean house!
LMAO OMG, I ALWAYS have thought that Steph's husband looks a bit like Jack Black.....but never said anything. HAHAHA He's such a cutie.
I love it! You should get away by yourself. I think it's healthy for both of you.
Twice a year my husband goes with his brothers camping. Twice a year I got to a weekend scrapbooking retreat.
We both come back refreshed, and the one that stayed home is ready for us to be back.
Some days I think we should take more solo vacations!
I think separate vacations/weekends are important too. So, who knows why Chris and I don't take them. Too busy, I guess, caught up with work and kids and everyday stuff. Good Lord, though, I feel SO relaxed when I just escape to the grocery store (okay, grosh) by myself. If I had an entire weekend away from Chris and the kids.....I might never come back. Just kidding, of course, but one of these days when the kids are a little older, I'll take my vacation, dammit! Come down here for a girls' weekend!
And, GREAT picture. Your hair looks gorgeous!
I dont know what he's doing to you below the pictures frame but by the look on his face (and yours!) its clearly naughty. well done.
Alone time is wonderful. I dream about alone time.
Point is totally grabbing your boob in that engagement photo, isn't he?! Bad boy!
Even though I felt that same depressing separation anxiety after Blogher as you did, I'm still going back next year, and for as many years as I can. It's really the only guaranteed getaway I have.
ali- i am all for a girls weekend with you.. that would be nice!!! don't you NEED one?!?! seriously?
denise & elizabeth.. i'll leave it your imagination what he was doing on a public and crowded beach during that pic. lol
Hope you both enjoyed your weekend away!!!
Oh, and great engagement pic!
thank you tracy! :)
I totally agree that they are positive, although I am the only one that goes on solo vacays in my marriage. Maybe I would feel differently if Jason was the one going to cool places, having fun, and leaving me alone. Not that he's not alllowed too, he just chooses not too. It's not going to stop me though! lol
Sorry I'm a bit late (like, a week!) but I've been on sabbatical, which ends this weekend.
Anyway, Jennster/Point: I absolutely loooove the pix. What a great shot! Makes me want to drag hubby to the studio for pix we've never taken...(sigh)
And it's so nice to know that there are still couples out there who believe that time away from one another every once in a while is healthy. I wholeheartedly believe that without 'you-time' everything around us would fall apart. Ya gotta take care of you before you can take care of everybody else demanding all of your time.
I hope you both had a great time recharging - you guys make a great couple!
I guess I'm the weird one. It's pretty rare that I feel a need to be away from Touchstone. Of course, he travels a lot, so he's gone a lot. But we just do NOT get enough time to ourselves. Our kids are not babies (for now) but still, we spend a lot of time with the whole family. (Homeschooling may be a part of that.) TS says (and I agree) that if we're going to have time away from the kids, we want to be together.
Every couple of years I may feel the need to totally get away, but for the most part, if I'm going to go somewhere fun without the kids, I want him to come, too.
I agree mamadala....but i can't tell if it's cause we're still newlyweds. LOL
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