Don't drink? Don't smoke? What do ya do?
Jenn said:
BLOG!
My husband has this cute little pet name for me......No it's not sweetie or honey or schmoopsie or even Frog (which is what it USED to be). No no nothing cutesy and romantic like that. No, his little pet name for me is: MOUSE POTATO!
awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww
He thinks I spend too much time on the computer. Since I'm writing this to you, oh blogosphere, I know I have some company out there. I'm sure you all hear it too. In fact, this cartoon from Blogging Chicks says it perfectly, doesn't it?
Thing is, I don't feel like I do that. I think I'm barely on-line when I'm home. When he's not there yes, when I'm at work yes, but at night I don't think I'm on a lot at all! I'm constantly thinking that I'd like to go on, but don't. Sheesh, imagine if I was on as much as I wished I could be.......what would he think THEN?!?!?!
My husband is a rare breed. Really, he is. He's absolutely wonderful. I wouldn't trade him for anything and I'm lucky as hell to have found him. When I go out with my girlfriends they all complain about their husbands and I just sit there and smile and nod. Sometimes I bring up things that used to annoy me about my ex, just to fit into the conversation. At some point in the conversation they look at me and say, what about Mike? Then I have to cringe (cause I know the eye rolling is coming) and tell them: No, actually he's really clean, I'm the messy one. No he's great with the baby, I never have to guilt him into taking care of her. No, he does his own laundry if he's out of something, cooks his own meal if I'm too busy or tired, doesn't drink and then treat me like shit, ect..... > Insert eye roll here. *shrug* sorry.....
In fact, most of the time it's ME who may not clean up after herself all the time...once in a while....occasionally....but hardly ever.....*whistles* Forgets to do things.......also very rare. Gets engrossed in the TV and doesn't hear him when he talks.....what? ME? I don't even WATCH TV!! Anyway, let me quit while I'm behind here and get back on point....Blogging.....alone time....
The truth is blogging just replaced computer games for me. I've spent probably years of my life in front of a computer playing on-line games like Everquest while drinking beer and chain smoking. Well, I don't do that anymore. I don't drink or smoke (regularly) and I don't play any more games. Instead I blog....occasionally...once in a while.....hardly ever!
I hear women in the blogosphere constantly talking about needing time alone, time for themselves, yadda yadda yadda. This can't include me. These women have husbands that don't help them. They need to do everything themselves. They stay home all day with the kids and need a reprieve....right? That's not me. How could I need that? I'm alone at work all day. I feel like I barely see Allie as it is, how could I need MORE time without her? And Mike? He's wonderful....he's everything I could have dreamed for....why would I need time without him? So that I can blog?!?!? Someone smack me right now!!!! He doesn't get time alone! Why should I? Although maybe we both need it.
Am I being selfish? I do that sometimes.......and I don't notice it till way after. And then I think......wow how did I not see that? I was such a bitch!
How does one balance: Time with family. Time with husband. Time alone. While also working, going to family functions, hanging out with friends and having a clean house? Oh yea and there's also that little thing called sleep.....
It's like the age old question isn't it?
Why did the chicken cross the road? To get to the other side....DUH!!
How does one balance their time equally and efficiently? You CAN'T.......DUH!!
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Mike said:
So, I’ve been thinking lately...
...that maybe I pick on my wife too much. She LOVES being on the computer. It started with internet based video games. She played a lot on games like EverQuest and World of Warcraft (WOW) before we were together. I do have to admit that she did get me into WOW for a while. I used to spend hours playing before we got married while she was out doing wedding stuff. The games are addicting, I admit it.
Now she blogs all the time; reading, commenting writing, etc. I love her a lot and she’s wonderful with our daughter. We both work all day, but after dinner, she likes to play with the baby for a little while, then she wants to go online “just to check her email” (which always turns into much more). I mean, there are much worse things she could be doing. She doesn’t do drugs. She rarely smokes or drinks. I understand that she gets lost in what she’s doing and that helps her to relax, so why shouldn’t I let her have this one thing? I guess my reasons are selfish. Simply, I miss her. I want us to spend time as a family, and then once our little girl goes to bed, I like to sit with her. We don’t even have to say anything, I just like when she’s around. I guess that’s why I married her.
I know, I kind of sound like a nagging woman saying, “Are you still watching the game?” or “Get out of the garage and come inside!” Does anyone else go thru this stuff, or is it just me?
BLOG!
My husband has this cute little pet name for me......No it's not sweetie or honey or schmoopsie or even Frog (which is what it USED to be). No no nothing cutesy and romantic like that. No, his little pet name for me is: MOUSE POTATO!
awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww
He thinks I spend too much time on the computer. Since I'm writing this to you, oh blogosphere, I know I have some company out there. I'm sure you all hear it too. In fact, this cartoon from Blogging Chicks says it perfectly, doesn't it?Thing is, I don't feel like I do that. I think I'm barely on-line when I'm home. When he's not there yes, when I'm at work yes, but at night I don't think I'm on a lot at all! I'm constantly thinking that I'd like to go on, but don't. Sheesh, imagine if I was on as much as I wished I could be.......what would he think THEN?!?!?!
My husband is a rare breed. Really, he is. He's absolutely wonderful. I wouldn't trade him for anything and I'm lucky as hell to have found him. When I go out with my girlfriends they all complain about their husbands and I just sit there and smile and nod. Sometimes I bring up things that used to annoy me about my ex, just to fit into the conversation. At some point in the conversation they look at me and say, what about Mike? Then I have to cringe (cause I know the eye rolling is coming) and tell them: No, actually he's really clean, I'm the messy one. No he's great with the baby, I never have to guilt him into taking care of her. No, he does his own laundry if he's out of something, cooks his own meal if I'm too busy or tired, doesn't drink and then treat me like shit, ect..... > Insert eye roll here. *shrug* sorry.....
In fact, most of the time it's ME who may not clean up after herself all the time...once in a while....occasionally....but hardly ever.....*whistles* Forgets to do things.......also very rare. Gets engrossed in the TV and doesn't hear him when he talks.....what? ME? I don't even WATCH TV!! Anyway, let me quit while I'm behind here and get back on point....Blogging.....alone time....
The truth is blogging just replaced computer games for me. I've spent probably years of my life in front of a computer playing on-line games like Everquest while drinking beer and chain smoking. Well, I don't do that anymore. I don't drink or smoke (regularly) and I don't play any more games. Instead I blog....occasionally...once in a while.....hardly ever!
I hear women in the blogosphere constantly talking about needing time alone, time for themselves, yadda yadda yadda. This can't include me. These women have husbands that don't help them. They need to do everything themselves. They stay home all day with the kids and need a reprieve....right? That's not me. How could I need that? I'm alone at work all day. I feel like I barely see Allie as it is, how could I need MORE time without her? And Mike? He's wonderful....he's everything I could have dreamed for....why would I need time without him? So that I can blog?!?!? Someone smack me right now!!!! He doesn't get time alone! Why should I? Although maybe we both need it.
Am I being selfish? I do that sometimes.......and I don't notice it till way after. And then I think......wow how did I not see that? I was such a bitch!
How does one balance: Time with family. Time with husband. Time alone. While also working, going to family functions, hanging out with friends and having a clean house? Oh yea and there's also that little thing called sleep.....
It's like the age old question isn't it?
Why did the chicken cross the road? To get to the other side....DUH!!
How does one balance their time equally and efficiently? You CAN'T.......DUH!!
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Mike said:
So, I’ve been thinking lately...
...that maybe I pick on my wife too much. She LOVES being on the computer. It started with internet based video games. She played a lot on games like EverQuest and World of Warcraft (WOW) before we were together. I do have to admit that she did get me into WOW for a while. I used to spend hours playing before we got married while she was out doing wedding stuff. The games are addicting, I admit it.
Now she blogs all the time; reading, commenting writing, etc. I love her a lot and she’s wonderful with our daughter. We both work all day, but after dinner, she likes to play with the baby for a little while, then she wants to go online “just to check her email” (which always turns into much more). I mean, there are much worse things she could be doing. She doesn’t do drugs. She rarely smokes or drinks. I understand that she gets lost in what she’s doing and that helps her to relax, so why shouldn’t I let her have this one thing? I guess my reasons are selfish. Simply, I miss her. I want us to spend time as a family, and then once our little girl goes to bed, I like to sit with her. We don’t even have to say anything, I just like when she’s around. I guess that’s why I married her.
I know, I kind of sound like a nagging woman saying, “Are you still watching the game?” or “Get out of the garage and come inside!” Does anyone else go thru this stuff, or is it just me?
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posted by Jenn at 7:46 AM
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First of all, Jenn, be careful what you say before a bunch of Internet chicks start hitting on your husband.
Second of all, Mike, I can totally relate. For us it is sports, especially fantasy sports. Eric is in about 6-8 fantasy sports leagues per year and he is forever checking team stats on the computer or watching games. It's not that I resent his enjoyment of sports, but sometimes I wish he could be just a little more . . . present.
(Of course there is a little bit of pot calling the kettle black here since I have become somewhat blog obsessed lately)
oh, ummm I forgot to mention......
I have a fantasy football league too. Well really we BOTH have it. Except umm, he's never actually looked at it yet. *smile*
Cool post. It's easy to see the mutual respect in your relationship. Cool concept for a website. Just curious...do all of you couples know each other? Or are you acquainted only through the blogosphere?
Mike, "Mouse Potato" is pretty clever!
Good topic... I stay at home, so I do most of my bloggy stuff through the day... maybe a laptop (maybe you have one) to keep you in the same room?
Try saying you'll be off in a minute when hubby is holding a screaming breast fed baby! lol! Good thing he takes bottles!!!
I love you guys. You are just like me and Nick. We have the same conversation. But I can blog all the time at work (multi-tasker) so I don't generally do it at home. I don't think there is an easy answer. But the fact that you talk about it is a good thing. Mike, you should give her some time to do it and Jenn you should give him more time without it. Does that help? LOL.
Tracy,
No we don't know each other in real life....just as bloggers. Thanks for asking though.
How fun! Maybe one day y'all can all meet up on a couples vacation or something!
You guys are such a cute couple! I can tell you really both love each other AND love each other's company.
I know the feeling of blogging more than I should. In fact, my husband is calling me to dinner (that he made--score!) right now...oops he's now STANDING right behind me. Anyways, I guess my new thing is trying to find the balance that works for you. If it means cutting back a little on the blogging that maybe do that for the hubby. OR you guys could just start a blog and write together. Oh wait, you've already done that. :)
Congrats on the new site!
Jenn,
OH MY GOD. How did you steal my thoughts and write this post??? The cartoon explained it perfectly (I just said that very line night before last). I have drank beer and chain smoked while playing Myst (the FIRST one). I often sit there quietly while my friends complain about their husbands - although, fortunately he is messy so I can at least throw that out to join the conversation.
Anyway, it is really hard to explain how addictive blogs are because much of it is about "belonging". If you miss a day of reading, then sometimes, you can miss out on a lot. For example, when a blog friend is having a bad day and you find out later and feel bad that you couldn't offer a kind comment. I HATE when that happens. But, it is hard to explain this to my husband who thinks this stuff is "imaginary".
i totally need ME time. EVERY SINGLE DAY. no joke. dot and i were just talking about this the other day (my bd to be exact) because i told him i was trying to balance attention for blake, attention for him, and attention for me. it's hard. but when i get that time to do what I want to do, i'm MUCH MUCH happier. when i don't get it,i'm a raging bitch. you know? it's hard to find that balance. but i think it's necessary. and it has to be however you choose to spend it. time for you, is TIME FOR YOU. and i totally think it's healthy, necessary, and should be required. lol
You are such a sweet couple who clearly love eachother. It's a good problem you have and so common I;m sure.
Jenn, yes, take time for you. maybe pick a night or two where you won't do any blogging or blogging related activities. gulp. i know that's hard believe me. and then maybe he can give you the other nights to do what you want.
Mike: that is so sweet you want to hang out with your wife. at least she's not looking at porn, right? or gambling compulsively online.. maybe the one or two night a week off thing might work ???
Who the heck am I to advise??? I am a computer addict too and that was our solution.. so I thought I'd share..
Lisa
Awwww, you two! What a pair you are! Seriously, too cute; and you're both so lucky to have each other. You guys sound like you got things in balance - really. I don't think there's such a thing as a perfect anything, even marriage. I mean, in another's eyes there's always going to be something wrong or off. And as for married couples, as long as you're on the same page and doing the fundamentals as a pair then everything else is really little stuff.
There's never going to be enough time in the day or week to be able to spend quality time with the kids, cook, clean, check email, read a blog (or two) AND be able to spend a reasonable amount of time hanging out with your significant other. There just aren't enough days in the week! But as long as you both know what the other needs, and acknowledge that, then it's all good.
You two are good for each other. And Allie is lucky to have such funny and caring parents...
Lisa - If she was looking at porn without me, I'd be pissed!!!
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