It's My (Our) Wedding and I'll Whine if I Want To!!!

Allie said: We're at the beginning stages of planning our wedding. Correction: I am at the beginning stages of planning our wedding. And truth be told I like it this way. Tony objects to everything that I wanna do. I told him I wanted my colors to be Black and cream he said "NO! I don't want my colors to be black." Excuse me but is a wedding not ALL ABOUT THE BRIDE ?! He has a friend who is getting married in March 08 and this guy doesn't give a rats ass about what's going on. I ask him when he visits so how's the wedding planning coming along His answer is "I don't know she's planning it all." I know I shouldn't be so one sided cause this day is about both of us. But damn!!! Sit back and let me do the planning!!!!

Tony said: If I'm going to take part in this wedding (and spend my money on it) I should have some say as to what is going on. And you make me sound like I am constantly butting in with the planning, the biggest thing I've complained about was you choice of colors. Black signifies death! Do you want our wedding to be surrounded by signs of death? I'd rather have more happier and vibrant colors. I'm definitely not trying to take over the wedding, but I do want to be involved. If I were to sit there and say nothing, you would get mad at me, I could already hear the "I'm having to do this whole thing BY MYSELF while you sit on your ass and watch football!!" I can't win if I help, and I can't win if I don't help.

Allie said: And the Transformer in a tuxedo as a wedding cake topper!!!!! I have to admit that is a good one.. But dressing up as Chingo Bling? Now I have looked the other way At Optimus being on our cake It was something that took awhile for me to get over. I remember when I was a little girl my grandmother told me that she wanted to bake my wedding cake and it was something she looked forward to. This makes me sad cause it reminds me of her and how that she will never be able to. So naturally I am very picky. And here you come making a joke of something that hits my heart. But I bit my tongue cause this is your day also..But if the transformer is up there then either a care bear or a my little pony is gonna be right next to it.

Tony Said: First of all, you thought it was cute that my mom used to dress me up in boots, and yes I did sport the shorts/boots look when I was a child. So I joked that since Chingo Bling is making that look fashionable, maybe I should dress like that....but it was a joke!! Now, Optimus Prime is one bad motherfucker...and who better to have represent me on top of our wedding cake than him? But all joking aside, I want this wedding to reflect a part of my personality, and I am a big kid at heart, and since you have my heart now, you also get Optimus Prime. And not all my suggestions have been humorous. I also suggested that our wedding invitations are printed only in Spanish because for 1.) it serves to reflect our heritage and 2.) because the Spanish language just looks more romantic on paper than the English language does.

Allie said: . As far as the wedding invitations being in Spanish I suggested printing some for the Spanish speakers in our Family and English for the others. The wedding is not until February 2009 We still have a ways to go but I wanna get most of it out of the way because 1.) I am very picky and am always changing my mind. 2.) I want it all to be perfect even though I know that things can go wrong. I want plenty of time to plan

My Home is No Longer My Castle

John:

Jen has gone and done it. She planted a seed a few months ago and now here we are packing up, uprooting, and moving in with *gasp!* her parents! Quick! Somebody pinch me – is this for real???!

Now, before anybody goes off and starts calling me names and all, let me just say that I love my wife dearly and respect her for considering this path for the betterment of our family’s financial and homeowning opportunities to follow. But, sheesh Jen! It’s your parents’ house for Christ sake!

Jen:
I know, I know. It’s a little hard for me to swallow as well. Believe me, after leaving when I was twenty-two never once did I dream I’d be right smack dab in my old hometown again, let alone redecorating my old room to accommodate me, you AND the kids!

But we’ve gotta stay focused on the overall goal here: crack our debt, save up for a house, and move out with enough moola to never have to do this again ever, ever in our lives and that of our kids. Capiche?

John:
Got it, got it. It’s just, our space, our privacy, our ways. It’s all going to be so different now. Where do I begin?

Jen:
I know, I know. We’ve gotta acclimate ourselves to the way they (my parents) do things around the house; the foods they cook; their quirks and idiosyncracies and such. I’m sure they’re dealing with the same things as far as we’re concerned. I mean, did you catch the look they shot us when we mentioned that we don’t normally eat rice every night? It was like blasphemy in the name of the grain!

John:
Yeah, and what about sex?

Jen:
What about sex?

John:
Well, you know how thin the walls are in there. What’re we gonna do?

Jen:
(pondering a moment) How ‘bout this for incentive: everytime we pay a bill off we’ll splurge and get a really fantastic hotel room for the weekend!

John:
(groan) Great. All the more reason for me to absolutely love this move!

Chalk it up to Preference

Mike Said:

So this past weekend, I began the process of preparing for the "little man" to show up. You see, we can't do the baby's room over yet because it's currently the office. The office needs to move downstairs into the family room (which is in the basement), and the play area in the family room needs to be moved into the 4th bedroom (also in the basement). So my friend and I repainted the family room (walls & ceilings), ripped up the carpet, and put down new tiles to brighten the room. Now that's done, I can move the office down and the play room can be made.

NOW.............here comes the hard part; painting the play room. I bought some multicolored interlocking foam blocks to cover the entire floor with (which Jenn and I agreed on), but she wants to paint one wall in the playroom with that "chalk board" paint that allows kids to write on the walls, and then have it be erased. I have a problem with this. It's not that I don't want the kids to have fun in there, but teaching them to write on the walls is not exactly what I think is a smart move. Allie will only be two years old in October and doesn't understand all the rules of the world yet. What's to say that she won't start writing on ALL of the walls? How can I yell at her if she can write on the walls in that one room? Or worse yet, how do you say to a two year old, "OK, you see this 5' x 8' section of wall next to the window? Well you can write on this section, but no where else? OK?" She'll nod and then proceed to write on the wall anywhere she wants anyway.

OK, babe.......................start beating me up now. I know I'm going to end up losing this argument anyway.

Jenn Said:

First of all we're talking about CHALK. It's not like she gonna be drawing with permanent magic marker on the walls. Second, where ELSE do chalk boards normally go? When you see a chalkboard in a school, where is it? It's on the wall!! Even if she gets a bit of chalk on the walls in the beginning when she's too young to know any better, is it a huge deal? It comes right off with water! IT'S CHALK!

I was already told that there was no way in HELL that we could put it on the big wall in the play room (even though that's the best place for it) because *GASP* "You can see it from the family room!" And OMG what would people think if they saw a wall with chalk on it in a play room.?!?!? I mean we must be savages allowing our children to act that way! *please read the RIDICULOUS sarcasm!*

Tell me, how is it different if we bought a piece of plywood and made a chalk board that hung on the wall instead? In fact, if that makes it easier for you to do, then fine. I know you say I'm too easy going and things like that don't bother me, but seriously, I don't even understand the reason for this debate. Think about this, we let her put stickers up on a part of her wall in her bedroom, right? And she didn't start putting stickers everywhere in the house, right? She knows that they go in that one spot. Plus we only buy those stickers that fall off eventually anyway. So, how is that different than chalk? I mean look how cute this looks?

Mike Said:

Stickers are never permanent anyway! That has nothing to do with this. Besides,what makes you think that she's not going to use pen on the walls?

I don't even know why I try to express my opinion, I'm going to get overruled anyway.

Jenn Said:
Stop saying that!!!! We don't do that, we discuss things and come up with a decision. If your totally against it and would rather buy a chalk board or an easel then we will. I just want to talk about it. See now your making me feel bad. I just really don't get the problem. As far as the stickers, it has to do with the fact that she has the ability to understand that certain things are done in certain places.

Mike Said:
I'd rather buy an easel. That's a fair compromise.

Jenn Said:
How about we buy a piece of wood and some chalk board paint and make a chalkboard and hang it on the wall. The big wall! I think THAT is a fair compromise. Plus then we don't have to worry about the chair rail being in the way.

Mike Said:

Why not just BUY a chalk board then?

Jenn Said:
Cause it's MUCH cheaper!

What do you guys think? Am I being crazy for wanting to paint the walls with chalkboard paint? Does he have a point? Or is he just being a pain in the ass?